Let’s be honest- motherhood is a full-time symphony of love, chaos, dishes, late-night worries, sticky fingers, and heart-melting moments. It’s beautiful… but it’s also exhausting.

Somewhere between “What’s for dinner?” and “Can you help me with this?” it’s easy to forget that you’re a person too.

A woman with dreams. With aches. With a heart that needs rest.

A woman who deserves softness, stillness, and space.

And so, this post is your gentle reminder:

• You are allowed to rest.
• You are allowed to say no.
• You are allowed to pour a bath, light a candle, and take up space in your own life.

A Personal Moment I’ll Never Forget…

After the birth of my son, I was tired in a way I didn’t know was possible- heart-tired, body-tired, soul-tired. One afternoon, a package arrived in the mail from a distant relative I hadn’t heard from in years. Nothing extravagant- just a few lotions, a body spray…but tucked inside was a small handwritten note that read:

“Don’t forget to take care of you.”

I don’t think she knew how much that note would mean to me. In that moment, I felt seen-not just as a mother, but as a person. It reminded me that I was still worthy of tenderness.

Simple Self-Care Ideas for Busy Moms

Here are a few small ways to reclaim just a few moments of peace:

• The 10 Minute Morning Cup: Wake up 10 minutes earlier and sip something warm before the world wakes up.
• Lock the Door Bath Ritual: Yes, lock the door. Add bubbles, music, and silence. You deserve that bath.
• Evening Tuck-In for Yourself: After the kids are asleep, dim the lights, rub lotion into your hands, and whisper, “I made it.”
• One Beautiful Thing Rule: Buy yourself flowers. Use the fancy soap. Eat the last cookie. You matter too.
• Create a “Do Nothing” Hour (Once a Week): Schedule it. Protect it. Fill it with whatever fills you.

A Loving Note to the Guilt

Mama, that guilt that creeps in when you take a moment for yourself? That’s not your intuition. That’s conditioning.

You’re not selfish- you’re sacred.

And your children don’t just need a present mother- they need a whole one.

So go ahead. Take that moment. Step into that candlelit tub. You are still you, and you’re worthy of care, not just responsibility.

With love, bubbles, and so much belief in you,

-Violette

The Sudsy Scoop